GWARZON NAMIJI….1&2
Da sunan Allah me rahma me jinkai tsira da aminci su kara tabbata ga manzon tsira manzon rahma (SAW) ina farin cikin gabatarda wannan littafin tareda fatan zai amfanar da al’umma allah yasa albarka acikinsa
Akowanne zamani Allah yana kawo jarumai gwaraza wadanda suke sadaukar da farin cikinsu domin farin cikin iyalansu, daga cikinsu ne ake samun gwarzon namiji wanda duk yanda al'umma takai ga lalacewa tofa wadannan basa kasa a guiwa wajen nuna kyakyawar mu'amala ga iyalansu,
Akwai abu uku da gwarzon namiji yakeda wanda shine ma babba makasudin da yasa kowacce mace ke fatan samunsa, haka zalika sune abu mafi girma da mace keso wajen namiji,
1 KAUNA --gwarzon namiji shine kadai ke nunawa mace kauna bawai soyayya ba don akwai gagarumin banbanci tsakanin kauna da soyayya,
Misali wanda yake kaunar ka shine kadai zai zauna dakai a kowanne yanayi kake, shine wanda kana shiga wata matsala yana kara kaunarka, kauna itace me saka tausayi wanda duk wani yanayi da mutum ya shiga me kaunar sa bazai taba juya masa baya ba, haka zalika shine zaiso 'yan uwar matarsa yaso 'ya'yanta.
2 BIYAN BUKATUN MACE --wajen biyan bukatun iyalinsa kuwa baya bada uziri yakanyi duk yanda zaiyi don farin cikin iyalinsa, shine wanda baya dogaro da dukiyar matarsa, domin namiji baya zama gwarzo matukar matarsa tana daukar nauyin kanta kona yaransu komai kankanta.
3 ME GAMSARDA MACE-- gamsar da mace lokacin saduwa yana karawa namiji kwarjini awajen mace akasin haka kuma yana kawo raini wanda wannan ba dabi'ar gwarzon namiji bane domin shi ya kanyi kokarin magance duk wata matsala da zata hanashi gamsar da iyalansa, matsalar daga wurinsa ne ko daga wajen matarsa.
Nasara ko faduwa bata samun namiji saida sahalewar mace, mace itace alkiblar namiji komai jarumtar sa itace rauninsa, kuma domin samun daraja a wajenta dole sai namiji ya zama gwarzo wanda yake rikeda akalar zuciyarsa bawai wanda zuciyarsa ke rike akalar saba.
Wannan shine gwarzon wanda akidarsa itace shimfida rayuwar farin ciki da abokiyar rayuwarsa wato matarsa, Jarumin yasha alwashin cimma burinsa ta hanyar yiwa rayuwarsa tsari me kyau
Har saida takai kafin aurensa ya samu komai na jin dadin rayuwa a tunaninsa mace ta gari itace kadai bukatarsa awajen allah sai kuma gashi allah ya amshi addu'arsa, to saidai kash abunda akaso ya faru ba shine ya faruba bayan anyi aure nanfa wannan jarumin ya sake fahimtar hankali bazai taba kwanciyaba har sai anyi farin ciki da iyali shikuwa farin ciki da iyali bazai taba samuwa ba har sai an magance matsaloli a bangaren kwanciya.
Na kirashi da gwarzon namiji ne saboda shine mutum na farko da yayi tattaki har saida takai ga ya ketare iyakar kasar sa ya shiga wata kasar domin magance matsalolin iyalinsa wanda acewar mata wannan ba dabi'ar maza bane suna ganin matsalolin aure na mata ne
Harma suna ganin idan namiji yaga mace ta kasa gyara matsalarta tofa zabi biyu zai bata kodai ya kara aure ko kuma tasan yanda dare yayi mata amma a yau wannan jarumin ya karyata wannan hasashen yayi kaca kaca da kundin shi kadai ya samarwa gidansa da matarsa farin ciki.
DAREN FARKO
Abu na farko da wadannan ma'auratan suka fuskanta shine lokacin saduwar farko yanda biyan bukatar su ta gagara saida suka dauki sama da mako biyu wannan mijin bai samu damar shiga ba domin a daidai lokacinda yake yunkurin sakawa zafi takeji kofar wajen ta toshe wannan yasa dole saida ya bincika littattafai na baya dana wallafa inda ya samu bayanai akan yanda ake magance matsalar wato amfanida man zaitun bayan an hadashi da zuma kadan an dafa sai mace ta shafa awajen kafin lokacin saduwa wajen zaiyi laushi sannan dole wajen samun santsi ma'aurata su rage amfanida miyau na baki don idan yayi yawa yakan iya haifarda kaikayi da rashin ni.ima kuma wadanda suka fuskanci wannan matsalar yanada kyau mace ta dage dashan kayan karin ni,ima sosai hakan zai kawo saukin al'amarin
Sannan akwai abunda sabon aure ke tsammani a zaman aure shine jin dadi dari bisa dari wanda kuma azahiri ba hakan bane, dole arinka fuskantar kalubale a rayuwar zaman aure kamar ta fuskar zashigtakewa
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